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Quotes about friendship

To one of my friend that left us so early, Faro. Goodbye my friend. May you rest in peace.

goodbye my friend

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A true friend is a gift of God, and only He who made hearts can unite them. —Robert South
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Faithful friends are a sturdy shelter: whoever finds one has found a treasure.—Sirach 6:14
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Friendship: To be a strong hand in the dark to another in the time of need.—Hugh Black
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Friendship requires great communication between friends. Otherwise, it can neither be born nor exist.—Saint Francis de Sales
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Friendship is a responsibility, not an opportunity.—Benjamin Franklin
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A true friend unbosoms freely, advises justly, assists readily, adventures boldly, takes all patiently, defends courageously, and continues a friend unchangeably.—William Penn
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Cultivate the qualities you desire in a friend, because someone is looking for you as their friend.—Unknown
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Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person; having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but to pour them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then, with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.—George Eliot
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To the world you are just one person, but to one person you could mean the world.—Unknown
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Good friends are like stars; you don’t always see them, but you know they’re always there.—Unknown
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A friend is one who strengthens you with prayers, blesses you with love, and encourages you with hope.—Unknown
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It is not so much our friends’ help that helps us as the confident knowledge that they will help us.—Epicurus
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My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.—The one to whom I can say, “I like me best when I’m with you.”—Unknown
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Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light.—Helen Keller
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Friends are God’s way of taking care of us.—Unknown
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Friends are like angels following you through life.—Unknown
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Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.—Anais Nin
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No love, no friendship, can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever.—Francois Mocuriac
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How blessed I am to have known someone who was so hard to say goodbye to.—Unknown
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We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go, we take a little of each other everywhere.—Tim McGraw
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No lapse of time or distance of place can lessen the friendship of those who are truly persuaded of each other’s worth.—Unknown
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The most beautiful discovery that true friends can make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.—Elisabeth Foley
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There is no distance too great between friends, for love gives wings to the heart.—Unknown
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With every friend I love who has been taken into the brown bosom of the earth, a part of me has been buried there; but their contribution to my being of happiness, strength and understanding remains to sustain me in an altered world.—Helen Keller
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True friends are never apart; maybe in distance, but not in heart.—Unknown
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Memories last forever, never do they die. Friends stick together and never really say goodbye.—Unknown

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originally sent to me by my other friend, Nicholas.

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9 beliefs

I was at my desk in my office this morning, did some work that I have to finished, when this email suddenly pop up. It was from my friend (he forwarded it from another sender too) and it’s an interesting article that he sent me :

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I’m fortunate enough to know a number of remarkably successful people. Regardless of industry or profession, they all share the same perspectives and beliefs.

And they act on those beliefs:

1. Time doesn’t fill me. I fill time.

Deadlines and time frames establish parameters, but typically not in a good way. The average person who is given two weeks to complete a task will instinctively adjust his effort so it actually takes two weeks.

Forget deadlines, at least as a way to manage your activity. Tasks should only take as long as they need to take. Do everything as quickly and effectively as you can. Then use your “free” time to get other things done just as quickly and effectively.

Average people allow time to impose its will on them; remarkable people impose their will on their time.

2. The people around me are the people I chose.

Some of your employees drive you nuts. Some of your customers are obnoxious. Some of your friends are selfish, all-about-me jerks.

You chose them. If the people around you make you unhappy it’s not their fault. It’s your fault. They’re in your professional or personal life because you drew them to you–and you let them remain.

Think about the type of people you want to work with. Think about the types of customers you would enjoy serving. Think about the friends you want to have.

Then change what you do so you can start attracting those people. Hardworking people want to work with hardworking people. Kind people like to associate with kind people.

Successful people are naturally drawn to successful people.

3. I have never paid my dues.

Dues aren’t paid, past tense. Dues get paid, each and every day. The only real measure of your value is the tangible contribution you make on a daily basis.

No matter what you’ve done or accomplished in the past, you’re never too good to roll up your sleeves, get dirty, and do the grunt work. No job is ever too menial, no task ever too unskilled or boring.

Remarkably successful people never feel entitled–except to the fruits of their labor.

4. Experience is irrelevant. Accomplishments are everything.

You have “10 years in the Web design business.” Whoopee. I don’t care how long you’ve been doing what you do. Years of service indicate nothing; you could be the worst 10-year programmer in the world.

I care about what you’ve done: how many sites you’ve created, how many back-end systems you’ve installed, how many customer-specific applications you’ve developed (and what kind)… all that matters is what you’ve done.

Successful people don’t need to describe themselves using hyperbolic adjectives like passionate, innovative, driven, etc.

Remarkably successful people don’t need to use any adjectives at all. They can just describe, hopefully in a humble way, what they’ve done.

5. Failure is something I accomplish; it doesn’t just happen to me.

Ask people why they have been successful. Their answers will be filled with personal pronouns: I, me, and the sometimes too occasional we.

Ask them why they failed. Most will revert to childhood and instinctively distance themselves, like the kid who says, “My toy got broken…” instead of, “I broke my toy.”

They’ll say the economy tanked. They’ll say the market wasn’t ready. They’ll say their suppliers couldn’t keep up.

They’ll say it was someone or something else.

And by distancing themselves, they don’t learn from their failures.

Occasionally something completely outside your control will cause you to fail. Most of the time, though, it’s you. And that’s okay. Every successful person has failed. Numerous times. Most of them have failed a lot more often than you. That’s why they’re successful now.

Embrace every failure: Own it, learn from it, and take full responsibility for making sure that next time, things will turn out differently.

6. Volunteers always win.

Whenever you raise your hand you wind up being asked to do more.

That’s great. Doing more is an opportunity: to learn, to impress, to gain skills, to build new relationships–to do something more than you would otherwise been able to do.

Success is based on action. The more you volunteer, the more you get to act. Successful people step forward to create opportunities.

Remarkably successful people sprint forward.

7. As long as I’m paid well, it’s all good.

Specialization is good. Focus is good. Finding a niche is good.

Generating revenue is great.

Anything a customer will pay you a reasonable price to do–as long as it isn’t unethical, immoral, or illegal–is something you should do. Your customers want you to deliver outside your normal territory? If they’ll pay you for it, fine. They want you to add services you don’t normally include? If they’ll pay you for it, fine. The customer wants you to perform some relatively manual labor and you’re a high-tech shop? Shut up, roll ’em up, do the work, and get paid.

Only do what you want to do and you might build an okay business. Be willing to do what customers want you to do and you can build a successful business.

Be willing to do even more and you can build a remarkable business.

And speaking of customers…

8. People who pay me always have the right to tell me what to do.

Get over your cocky, pretentious, I-must-be-free-to-express-my-individuality self. Be that way on your own time.

The people who pay you, whether customers or employers, earn the right to dictate what you do and how you do it–sometimes down to the last detail.

Instead of complaining, work to align what you like to do with what the people who pay you want you to do.

Then you turn issues like control and micro-management into non-issues.

9. The extra mile is a vast, unpopulated wasteland.

Everyone says they go the extra mile. Almost no actually one does. Most people who go there think, “Wait… no one else is here… why am I doing this?” and leave, never to return.

That’s why the extra mile is such a lonely place.

That’s also why the extra mile is a place filled with opportunities.

Be early. Stay late. Make the extra phone call. Send the extra email. Do the extra research. Help a customer unload or unpack a shipment. Don’t wait to be asked; offer. Don’t just tell employees what to do–show them what to do and work beside them.

Every time you do something, think of one extra thing you can do–especially if other people aren’t doing that one thing. Sure, it’s hard.

But that’s what will make you different.

And over time, that’s what will make you incredibly successful

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the paradox of our time

I opened my facebook account this morning and found this cool status update of one of my friend in my news feed. I thought it was hers. Then I asked her and she told me who the real writer was…

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The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower view points; we spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy it less.

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower view points; we spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy it less.

We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time; we have more degrees, but less sense; more knowledge, but less judgment; more experts, but more problems; more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get angry too quickly, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too seldom, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life; we’ve added years to life, not life to years.

We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbor. We’ve conquered outer space, but not inner space; we’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul; we’ve split the atom, but not our prejudice.

We write more, but learn less; we plan more, but accomplish less.

We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait; we have higher incomes, but lower morals; we have more food, but less appeasement; we build more computers to hold more information to produce more copies than ever, but have less communication; we’ve become long on quantity, but short on quality.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion; tall men, and short character; steep profits, and shallow relationships.

These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare; more leisure, but less fun; more kinds of food, but less nutrition.

These are days of two incomes, but more divorce; of fancier houses, but broken homes.

These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throw away morality, one-night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer to quiet to kill.

It is a time when there is much in the show window and nothing in the stockroom; a time when technology has brought this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to make a difference, or to just hit delete…

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The Paradox of our time in History by Bob Moorehead

I’d imagine the whole world was one big machine

these words are from Hugo movie…

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©stickersticker

I’d imagine the whole world was one big machine

Machines never come with any extra parts, you know

They always come with the exact amount they need

So I figured if the entire world was one big machine …

… I couldn’t be an extra part

I had to be here for some reason

And that means you have to be here for some reason, too

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seharusnya tidak terbuai lagi …

Berbagai stasiun televisi menayangkan berita tentang kasus ini, kasus itu… si tokoh ini, si tokoh itu… partai ini dan partai itu…

Lalu aku mulai merenung, yang akan maju menjadi calon-calon pemimpin negeri ini sebentar lagi adalah mereka-mereka juga… mereka-mereka yang menyembunyikan kesalahannya dibalik materi dan waktu yang berhasil mereka tarik ulur…

Aku tidak akan memilih mereka-mereka itu menjadi pemimpinku, aku berkata dalam hati. Namun, apakah yang lain juga berpikiran sama seperti aku?

Jika orangnya berpendidikan dan jauh dari cengkeraman bendera tertentu, mungkin iya…

Jika tidak ? hmm, iya gak ya…

Masyarakat sekarang sudah bijak, walaupun mungkin sebagian besar dari mereka belum menyandang gelar sarjana, pikirku. Tidak akan mau lagi mereka dibodohi dengan janji-janji manis. Sudah cukuplah mereka hidup bersusah payah sementara pemimpin-pemimpin yang dulu mereka pilih kerjaannya hanyalah menumpuk harta…

Tapi ternyata, calon-calon pemimpin yang banyak duit itu lebih bijak lagi.. Mereka tahu betul keadaan sebagian besar masyarakat bangsa ini. Mereka (rakyat jelata) adalah orang-orang yang sangat-sangat membutuhkan materi, kata mereka. Kita beri itu saja kepada mereka, cukup-cukup untuk makan beberapa hari hingga kita telah mendapatkan suara mereka. Bagi orang-orang yang terdesak dan sangat membutuhkan, lebih baik ada sedikit dan sebentar, daripada menunggu lebih lama lagi walaupun mungkin mereka bisa mendapatkan berpuluh kali lipat dari itu…

Hmm, sepertinya iming-iming materi dan janji-janji manis telah menang lagi. Atau…. benarkah demikian?

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Agus

(setelah percakapan singkat dengan seseorang beberapa hari yang lalu)

WE HAVE TIME

WE HAVE TIME

By Octavian Paller

Translated by Sorana Lucia Salomeia

©Sortvind

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“We have time for everything:
to sleep, to run from one place to another,to regret having mistaken and to mistake again,
to judge the others and to forgive ourselves,

we have time for reading and writing,
for making corrections to our texts, to regret ever having written,
we have time to make projects and never respect them,
we have time to make illusions and gamble
through their ashes later on.

We have time for ambitions and illnesses,
to blame it all on ambitions and details,
we have time to watch the clouds, advertisements or some ordinary accident,
we have time to chase our wonders away
and to postpone the answers,

we have time to break a dream to pieces and then to reinvent it,
we have time to make friends, lose them,
we have time to learn our lessons and then
forget them quickly afterwards,
we have time to be given gifts and not understand them.
We have time for them all.

But there is no time for just a drop of tenderness.
When we are about to get to that too – we die.
I have learned some things during my lifetime,
experiences that I am now sharing with you!!

I have learned that you cannot make somebody love you; All you can do is be the beloved one.
Everything else… depends on the others.
I have learned that, no matter how much I might care,
Others might not care at all.
I have learned that it could take years to earn somebody’s confidence
And only a few seconds to lose it.,
I have learned that it is not WHAT you have in life,
But WHO is there for you to have.
I have learned that charms could be of use for only about 15 minutes,
Afterwards, nevertheless, you had better know something.
I have learned that you should never compare yourself to what others can do better than you,
but you what you can do yourself;
I have learned that what happens to the others is not as import as
what I can do to help;
I have learned that in whatever you might cut things,
They will always turn out to have two sides;

I have learned that when you have to depart from your dearest ones,
you should do it with the warmest words;
It could be the last time you see them.
I have learned that you could carry on for a long time
After stating you cannot take it anylonger;
I have learned that heroes are those who do what is right when the ought to,
regardless of the consequences;
I have that there are people who love you
But do not know how to show it;
I have learned that when I am upset I have the RIGHT to be so
But I do not have the right to be mean as well;
I have learned that true friendship continues to exist even when great distances are involved
And that goes for true love too.
I have learned that, if somebody does not love you the way you might want to be loved,
It does not mean they do not love you with all their heart.
I have learned that no matter how good a friend might be to you,
They will inevitably hurt you from time to time
And you will have to forgive;

I have learned that it is not always enough to be forgiven by others,
Sometimes you must learn how to forgive your own self;
I have learned that, regardless of how much you might suffer,
The world will never cease running because of your pain.
I have learned that the past and circumstances could alter your personality,
But it is certainly YOU to be held responsible for what you become;
I have learned that, if two people argue, it does not mean they do not love each other,
As well as their not arguing would not prove that they subsequently are in love.
I have learned that you should sometimes put the person in the first place
And not their deeds;
I have learned that two persons could be watching the very same thing
And perceive two totally different meanings;
I have learned that, in spite of any consequences,
Those who are fair and honest with themselves
reach higher peaks in life;
I have learned that one’s life could be changed in only a few hours’ time
By people who might have never even known them;

I have learned that when you believe there is
nothing more you could offer,
You will always find the strength to help a friend who in need.
I have learned that writing,
Just like speaking,
Could soothe your inner pain.
I have learned that the ones you hold dearest
Are taken away from you far too soon…
I have learned that it is far too difficult to realize
Where to draw the borders between kindness, not hurting the others
and firmly sustaining your ideas.
I have learned to love
In order to be loved in my turn.”

Octavian Paler, a Romanian writer, (2 .07. 1926, Lisa, county Făgăraș,, Romania— 7 May 2007)

Rp 50000, itulah harga nyawa saya

Ingatkanlah kami untuk menyanyangi nyawa kami dan hukumlah kami bila kami membahayakan nyawa orang lain

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Pak, Anda menghentikan dan menilang saya saat mengendarai motor sendirian tidak mengenakan helm. Anda bilang saya melanggar peraturan lalu lintas. Saya ingin protes, ini tidak adil. Anda tidak perlu menghukum saya, tapi tegur sajalah. Kan kalau saya terjatuh dan mengalami kecelakan, yang rugi saya sendiri juga.

Pak, Anda seharusnya menilang pengendara sepeda motor itu. Memang sih dia lengkap semuanya, mulai dari dua pasang kaca spion hingga tutup pentil. Tapi lihatlah, dia membelok seenaknya saja tanpa memasang lampu sign. Yang dirugikan kan bukan dirinya saja Pak, tetapi juga pengendara-pengendara lain di sekitarnya.

Atau coba lihat pengendara itu Pak. Saya yakin kecepatannya itu lebih dari 60 km/jam. Padahal dijalan ini banyak sekolahan dan anak-anak kecil Pak. Sedangkan saya, bapak lihat sendiri kan tadi, orang yang naik sepeda bahkan bisa menyalib saya.

Tapi sepertinya Pak, Anda sangat peduli dengan nyawa saya ya. Rp 50000, itulah harga nyawa saya menurut Anda..

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Agus Praditya T

cuma berbagi sebuah pandangan

jika alam bisa memilih

Jika alam bisa memilih, dia ingin tetap indah dan mempesona

Jika alam bisa memilih, dia ingin tetap melindungi dan memberi kehidupan

Jika alam bisa memilih, dia ingin tetap tumbuh dan hidup di tempat dia berada hingga akhir hayatnya

Jika alam bisa memilih, dia tidak ingin menghukum makhluk lain dengan amarahnya

melainkan hidup damai dengan mereka

Tetapi, alam tidak bisa memilih….

Seringkali dia menjadi korban keserakahan sekelompok manusia

Keserakahan yang merugikan tak hanya alam saja tetapi juga manusia dan makhluk hidup lainnya

Manusia dan makhluk hidup yang telah berteman dengan alam sejak dahulu kala

Mungkin kini..

Jika alam diberi kesempatan untuk memilih,

dia ingin menghukum para manusia yang tidak bertanggung jawab itu

Tapi…. itu hanya angan-angan…

 

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Agus Praditya T

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